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Resilience

Recently I’ve read about resilience, it’s true meaning, and I stopped to think deeply and ask myself this question: Am I a resilient person? Reading about the chacteristics of a resilient person I realized I’m not.

If you google ‘resilience’, you’ll find this: “The capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.” but it’s more than that, and opening other links about self knowledge I found other infos about it. It’s not enough to just go through the difficulties, anyone can do that, we suffer, we cry, then we recover, that’s not sheer resilience.

I’ve read about the qualities of a resilient person and it talks about optimism, patience and calm, someone that focus on the solution from the begining. Basicly it takes being aware of the fact that one cannot waste time worrying, it takes facing the problems from their very first minute with optimism. Reading about it made me remember everytime I snaped over a problem, everytime I cried and freaked out instead of thinking about solutions.

I started questioning myself about it, why am I like this? Why do I get stressed with the littlest problem? Resilience, I need it, we all do… Sometimes we feel like such warriors ’cause we’ve been through so much, but have you ever stopped to observe yourself, or your acts? Have you ever tried to understand them and maybe change what needs to be changed?

Known as self knowledge, this attribute can help you with relationships on the outside. Experts on the matter say that in order to make good connections we need to know ouselves and the resilience is a quality that tends to make a whole life much easier.
So I dare you to question yourself about it, to discover who you are, change what you want to change, and embrace and love what is part of you, good or bad.

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Love

First post of 2018. It took me more than I wanted to come back and write new posts. I love to write, it makes me feel better, and writing my thoughts is like a therapy, so I’ll never stop.

I’ve been watching Pride and Prejudice over and over again, it has such a good vibe with nature and inocence, it takes me into their time. Besides that good feeling, there’s the main story of the movie, about Lizzie and Mr. Darcy and how long it took for them to finally be together even if it was love at first sight.

In this movie, love is born in a moment but becomes stronger with time, and not just a week, months. Before declaring real love to Lizzie, Mr. Darcy fought his own will, trying to be wrong,  only to find out his feelings for her were true. I know it’s just a movie and we don’t know for sure how many couples started out of sheer love back then, but I know sometimes we rush into relationships not taking time to see if it’s going to bloom or if it’s going to die.

More than knowing the strength of the feeling, we need to know that person underneath in order to notice any compatibility or the lack of it. I know that feelings are sopposed to be felt and not thought, but still we can use some logic. Why can’t we give time before a hug, or a kiss, os before getting intimate? Why do people have this craving for early physical interaction in the dating matter? We rush and than deny it by convincing ourselves that these things happen ‘how could I know?’, exactly, why didn’t you know?

Time, something so simple, so unavoidable that we keep trying to avoid, big mistake. Love just is, it’s true, but love also takes time, needs time, not ’cause it’s weak, ’cause it’s eternal.