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Distrações

Todos os nossos dias são corridos, não importa o que façamos, sempre parece que o dia deveria ter ao menos 30 horas. O que é um pouco bizarro nos dias que não surgem tantas coisas para resolver, deveriam ser dias calmos, demorados, mas não são. Talvez a gente não se dê conta exatamente do tempo, ele é bem relativo, quando estamos numa tarefa legal, ele voa, quando é algo chato, ele se arrasta lentamente.

A questão é que de uma forma ou de outra, estamos sempre fazendo algo, seja útil ou não. Espera, algo não útil? Como pode? Com tantas coisas que tenho para fazer, como eu iria conseguir ocupar algum tempo com coisas inúteis? Impossível.

Não, na verdade é bem possível, quase que tradicional, no dia-a-dia de qualquer pessoa. Quanto tempo passamos relembrando coisas que não temos como resolver? Quanto tempo passamos rolando a Timeline de redes sociais sem nenhum objetivo específico? Quanto tempo passamos em uma conversa que não passa de um bate-papo? Calma, não estou aqui pregando que devemos eliminar todas essas práticas, mas concorda comigo que existe um limite?

Nossas vidas passam com distrações, coisas que passamos uma ou duas horas do dia fazendo para absolutamente nada, por absolutamente nada. As distrações geralmente levam tempo e nada dão em troca, e a desculpa mais usada para se mergulhar nela é: trabalhei/estudei muito hoje, preciso de um descanso, eu posso me dar esse presente.

Sim, você precisa descansar, mas não incontrolavelmente, muitos deixam de terminar coisas, aprender outras e atingir níveis maiores por estarem extremamente distraídos. Precisamos urgentemente aprender a controlar nosso tempo, a identificar quando uma distração está nos impedindo de atingir algo maior, já que nós somos os responsáveis por tudo o que acontece, tudo o que melhora.

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Love

First post of 2018. It took me more than I wanted to come back and write new posts. I love to write, it makes me feel better, and writing my thoughts is like a therapy, so I’ll never stop.

I’ve been watching Pride and Prejudice over and over again, it has such a good vibe with nature and inocence, it takes me into their time. Besides that good feeling, there’s the main story of the movie, about Lizzie and Mr. Darcy and how long it took for them to finally be together even if it was love at first sight.

In this movie, love is born in a moment but becomes stronger with time, and not just a week, months. Before declaring real love to Lizzie, Mr. Darcy fought his own will, trying to be wrong,  only to find out his feelings for her were true. I know it’s just a movie and we don’t know for sure how many couples started out of sheer love back then, but I know sometimes we rush into relationships not taking time to see if it’s going to bloom or if it’s going to die.

More than knowing the strength of the feeling, we need to know that person underneath in order to notice any compatibility or the lack of it. I know that feelings are sopposed to be felt and not thought, but still we can use some logic. Why can’t we give time before a hug, or a kiss, os before getting intimate? Why do people have this craving for early physical interaction in the dating matter? We rush and than deny it by convincing ourselves that these things happen ‘how could I know?’, exactly, why didn’t you know?

Time, something so simple, so unavoidable that we keep trying to avoid, big mistake. Love just is, it’s true, but love also takes time, needs time, not ’cause it’s weak, ’cause it’s eternal.

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Get there

Patience is something hard to exercise, we love conquering, we love that feeling of doing or having something we’ve been fighting to be able to do or to have. The thing is that sometimes we have to wait to get there and the waiting seems like a torture, it feels bad and disturbing, but have you ever wondered if the feeling of conquering would be so amazing if we didn’t have to fight and wait the right moment to conquer what we want?

Some people say that money isn’t happiness and I agree, ’cause it’s so easy, whatever you want you can get ’cause everything has a price. So imagine living without the feeling of conquering something after work so hard, do you remember the feeling? Let me help you out.

You feel amazing ’cause you made it, you were strong enough, smart enough, you had to go the hard way and it wasn’t enough to make you give up. So we need to stop hating the hard times and embrace them, ’cause these are the times that make us stronger, they bring more happiness to our life, after the storm is gone of course. So whatever you dream to acomplish but you have to work harder or wait, do it with a smile on your face, ’cause you need to remember you’ll get there eventually and today will be long gone.

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Hope

Sometimes we find ourselves in panic, something bad happened, something went wrong and the feeling we get is that it’s over, it won’t work, you should just give up and that is it. It’s curious how hard it is for us to see hope in those situations, when we’re ok and feeling good we believe things are gonna be alright, but when we’re sad we feel hopeless, funny how our hearts work.

Though it might feel impossible to do we can… Sorry, I mean, we must try to focus on the end of the tunnel, that light that is so little it almost looks like and optical illusion, but it’s there and it’s real. Eventually we learn that no matter what your problem is it can be solved or at least atenuated but being a human is hard, we are not programmed and we fight a lifetime to control ourselves to, in the end, find out we wasted time.

So maybe instead of trying to be ahead of our panic attacks, why don’t we just forgive ourselves for being afraid or losing opportunities? After all we already concluded we’re uncontrollable. Forgiving yourself for the mistakes allows you to be happier and consequently hopefull.

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Freedom

Sometimes we become slaves of our own concerns, we’re always worried about something and 99% of those concerns are about people. What he thinks, what she will think of me, what are they gonna say, how are they gonna react, okay, we need to worry about hurting someone or doing something bad, but there’s a limit there, we stop being ourselves ’cause you can be too clumsy, too silly, too serious or too needy. Tell me, what is the problem with that?

Why do we worry about the way we are? There’s no pattern for a human being, society tries to create one and still they create hundreds of them, but sometimes you’re nothing like any one of those patterns and I don’t know why some people are ashamed of that as if it was wrong.

Patterns are to inspire, maybe to copy one or two thing, but never to be entirely! So there you are, thinking you’re free, when you’re actually not. How to know that you need to break free from these concerns? Are you trying to change something in you to look more like someone else? Are you hiding something or someone you like from your friends and family? Are you holding in your actions ’cause you think people are gonna see you as an imature or silly person?

Changes are welcome, but only to please yourself, okay, you fell better if you lose weight, than loose it, you wanna change anything for YOU and only you? Than do it! But if the motivation comes from others opinions, break free from that, actually be yourself, that’s when you’re better.

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Moving on

I’ve lived for a long time scared about everything, all because I was always protected. I had my ‘things’ told me to do, so I didn’t have to worry about deciding… After turning 20 years people started to get tired of me always insecure about my decisions, asking them what I should do, when and why, after all, I was way too old to be leaving my life in other people’s hands, and actions like that turned me into a victim, I decided, insecurely, and when things didn’t work suddenly the entire world was unfair to me.

You see, that can and will be called Lack of Maturity, I needed to start taking responsability for my own decisions, even if they would end up being mistakes. I needed to stop hiding behind my fear, saying that a good thing couldn’t happen to me just because people didn’t like me or the universe didn’t work on my favor, where’s the logic in that? I mean, of course I believe somethings happen and we can’t do anything about it, but mostly we can choose to succeed, we chose to be happy when we understand our time is different, sometimes I’m gonna make a mistake, sometimes I’m gonna stay at home on a friday night, sometimes no one will call me, but only because I don’t need what I think I need. Not because people don’t like me, or ’cause nothing works on my favor.

The fear goes away when I realize I’m happy on my own ’cause I chose to be, and how do I do that? By understanding my limits, embracing my life the way it is and working hard to conquer whatever I think is missing. And the most important rule: Understandind everything takes time, wheather it’s one day or one year. Life happens while we’re worrying about what everybody is thinking about us, while we’re afraid of trying and failling, while we’re trying to convince ourselves that great things can’t happen to us ’cause it’s way to good to be true, while we’re afraid of being behind our work colegues or classmates. Suddently we stop and realize it was all for nothing, ’cause everything turned out just fine.

So here is my message for you: You are gonna be OKAY! No matter what, just don’t give up.