So here I am, 2 months in after the graduation day. I’ve thought about so many different ways to go, even having this big dream for my life, there are these different ways to get there. After graduation the fear comes along, fear of not getting a job, of nor being able to do what you’ve studied 5 years for.
At last your fears are gone, you start on something, you get a job or you just start on your own, the last one being my situation right now. And then you start thinking about how blessed you are, yes, you made it, but also, somethings that led you to that job happened without your control, it makes you think about the ‘what if’s’ and get surprised with the many good things that happen.
After understanding that, you get more thankful for the good things that happen and start believing more in yourself, you think ‘hey, my hard work is paying off, ’cause good things are happening to me’. Those moments push us forward, to keep going, to not give up.
So if you’re stuck in some fase of your life, don’t worry, it means you just have to stop, think and plan, and of course, believe it’s just a fase, life can still surprise you.
Good luck! XX
Patience is something hard to exercise, we love conquering, we love that feeling of doing or having something we’ve been fighting to be able to do or to have. The thing is that sometimes we have to wait to get there and the waiting seems like a torture, it feels bad and disturbing, but have you ever wondered if the feeling of conquering would be so amazing if we didn’t have to fight and wait the right moment to conquer what we want?
Some people say that money isn’t happiness and I agree, ’cause it’s so easy, whatever you want you can get ’cause everything has a price. So imagine living without the feeling of conquering something after work so hard, do you remember the feeling? Let me help you out.
You feel amazing ’cause you made it, you were strong enough, smart enough, you had to go the hard way and it wasn’t enough to make you give up. So we need to stop hating the hard times and embrace them, ’cause these are the times that make us stronger, they bring more happiness to our life, after the storm is gone of course. So whatever you dream to acomplish but you have to work harder or wait, do it with a smile on your face, ’cause you need to remember you’ll get there eventually and today will be long gone.
Sometimes we find ourselves in panic, something bad happened, something went wrong and the feeling we get is that it’s over, it won’t work, you should just give up and that is it. It’s curious how hard it is for us to see hope in those situations, when we’re ok and feeling good we believe things are gonna be alright, but when we’re sad we feel hopeless, funny how our hearts work.
Though it might feel impossible to do we can… Sorry, I mean, we must try to focus on the end of the tunnel, that light that is so little it almost looks like and optical illusion, but it’s there and it’s real. Eventually we learn that no matter what your problem is it can be solved or at least atenuated but being a human is hard, we are not programmed and we fight a lifetime to control ourselves to, in the end, find out we wasted time.
So maybe instead of trying to be ahead of our panic attacks, why don’t we just forgive ourselves for being afraid or losing opportunities? After all we already concluded we’re uncontrollable. Forgiving yourself for the mistakes allows you to be happier and consequently hopefull.
I’ve always been in a rush for everything, when I was 10 I wanted to be 15 already, finally turned 15 and I couldn’t wait for my 18’s and most of you will say that it is normal for a teenager to anticipate, but ’till I was 25 it lingered. This kind of person can have names like ‘dreamer’ and ‘ambicious’ and yes, I dream and I work hard to get there, but the low of being like this is that I rarelly enjoy my rewards.
I’m now 26 years old and recently graduated in Civil Engineering, well as you can guess, I’ve dreaming about college before getting in and dreaming about graduation before leaving, I spent 80% of my time there dreaming about working and getting married, having babies and everything, now I realize I’ve made few friends, most of my classmates I’ll probably never see again.
Why am I talking about this? ‘Cause we tend to think too much about the future and mostly about things we don’t even need now, I mean, did I need to marry while trying to get good grades in college? Did I need to worry about college while trying to finish school? No, I didn’t. I left moments and people behind. After graduating I felt this urge for traveling, getting to know other countries (I have to inform you here that I’ve never been out of Brazil) and right when I started worrying about starting a family I finally asked myself: Do I need that to travel all I want? No, I don’t. So the whole desperation suddently ended and I realized I have my own time just as you have yours too.
Maybe now you’re anticipating something for your life and didn’t even thing about it, didn’t try to understand if this is what you need now, ’cause of that you can be losing some great moments of your life, ’cause you wanna be with that person only you lose moments with others. I’m not saying we need to settle, not at all, but sometimes we need to stop focusing on what we don’t have and appreciate what we have.
Sometimes we become slaves of our own concerns, we’re always worried about something and 99% of those concerns are about people. What he thinks, what she will think of me, what are they gonna say, how are they gonna react, okay, we need to worry about hurting someone or doing something bad, but there’s a limit there, we stop being ourselves ’cause you can be too clumsy, too silly, too serious or too needy. Tell me, what is the problem with that?
Why do we worry about the way we are? There’s no pattern for a human being, society tries to create one and still they create hundreds of them, but sometimes you’re nothing like any one of those patterns and I don’t know why some people are ashamed of that as if it was wrong.
Patterns are to inspire, maybe to copy one or two thing, but never to be entirely! So there you are, thinking you’re free, when you’re actually not. How to know that you need to break free from these concerns? Are you trying to change something in you to look more like someone else? Are you hiding something or someone you like from your friends and family? Are you holding in your actions ’cause you think people are gonna see you as an imature or silly person?
Changes are welcome, but only to please yourself, okay, you fell better if you lose weight, than loose it, you wanna change anything for YOU and only you? Than do it! But if the motivation comes from others opinions, break free from that, actually be yourself, that’s when you’re better.
I’ve lived for a long time scared about everything, all because I was always protected. I had my ‘things’ told me to do, so I didn’t have to worry about deciding… After turning 20 years people started to get tired of me always insecure about my decisions, asking them what I should do, when and why, after all, I was way too old to be leaving my life in other people’s hands, and actions like that turned me into a victim, I decided, insecurely, and when things didn’t work suddenly the entire world was unfair to me.
You see, that can and will be called Lack of Maturity, I needed to start taking responsability for my own decisions, even if they would end up being mistakes. I needed to stop hiding behind my fear, saying that a good thing couldn’t happen to me just because people didn’t like me or the universe didn’t work on my favor, where’s the logic in that? I mean, of course I believe somethings happen and we can’t do anything about it, but mostly we can choose to succeed, we chose to be happy when we understand our time is different, sometimes I’m gonna make a mistake, sometimes I’m gonna stay at home on a friday night, sometimes no one will call me, but only because I don’t need what I think I need. Not because people don’t like me, or ’cause nothing works on my favor.
The fear goes away when I realize I’m happy on my own ’cause I chose to be, and how do I do that? By understanding my limits, embracing my life the way it is and working hard to conquer whatever I think is missing. And the most important rule: Understandind everything takes time, wheather it’s one day or one year. Life happens while we’re worrying about what everybody is thinking about us, while we’re afraid of trying and failling, while we’re trying to convince ourselves that great things can’t happen to us ’cause it’s way to good to be true, while we’re afraid of being behind our work colegues or classmates. Suddently we stop and realize it was all for nothing, ’cause everything turned out just fine.
So here is my message for you: You are gonna be OKAY! No matter what, just don’t give up.
Have you ever met someone that you just automatically liked? I’m not talking about ‘more than friends’, I’m talking about admiring that person just by the way she/he is. These are the magic people, they can conquer anyone with their personality, so that’s the question: Are you magic? Can you make people feel good around you? Are you a nice person? Are you kind and helpful? Sometimes I see myself being so impatient with people… I’m not worried about making people like me and you shouldn’t either, but sometimes I wonder how is it that we never worry about being nice with other people, they’re not less important, they’re just like you and me: Human beings. We demand people to understand that we’re having a bad day, but we never want to understand the others. So here is my sugestion – Change your environment, whenever you get into a room your mood shows, so try to give your best, try to give some magic to the ones who don’t have it.
What comes to your mind when you read: “Go beyond”? What comes to mine is about overcoming ourselves. Take whatever you know and update it, take your skills and improve them. I see all the time people who are satisfied with their lives, they don’t think they need to reach a new level, understand, I’m not saying you need to live completely unhappy with your life, be grateful for what you have, you’ve worked hard for that, but don’t stop working hard to improve it. Don’t settle, it isn’t over, you’re able to do so much more! Our minds are creative, some people think they’re not the creative kind of person but everyone is. Every kind of creation is valid and if you think you’ve done enough for yourself, start doing something for the others, but don’t stop creating, don’t stop getting better and smarter, if your brain doesn’t stop untill you diem than keep using it. Go beyond the things you know, beyond who you are.
“Go beyond the limit you place on yourself
You’ll find the power’s all yours
Fly away, take control
Beyond the edge of mine will make you whole.”
Balligomingo – Beyond
I always loved new things, new places, new feelings, new everything. I want to take my work and use it to make something new, completely different, that’s why I love technology so much. People all over the world take their time to research for better ways to do something: Better ways to have electricity, better ways to build, to live. Are you seeking a better life? Sometimes we settle for what we got and forget that we still fight the rest of the world to live, we still destroy to be. Okay, I don’t live among the nature, eating, I don’t know, rocks, of course there’s a chain, you need to eat meat, you need a house… But did you know that people are developing new ways to live normally affecting less the place where we live? There was a time that new used to come to kill the natural and create artifficial, but today this is different. New is coming to try to bring back at least a part of what we lost, join this cause, whatever you do, even if you work at home, live respecting the environment, recycle, reuse, old things can be new.
Construir sempre exigiu matéria prima, esta sempre foi retirada da natureza, com o tempo surgiram algumas perguntas: Será que podemos reutilizar o que seria jogado fora? Será que há formas diferentes e mais baratas de fabricar os mesmos objetos? Existe alguma forma de tornar inesgotável alguma matéria prima?
Diante desses e de outros vários questionamentos, a engenharia voltada para a construção começou a se tornar cada dia mais sustentável, mas o que isso significa? A natureza pode até não nos fornecer matéria prima inesgotável, mas pode fazer isso por um tempo muito longo, isso só se dá se ela tiver tempo e condições para repor aquilo que perdeu, é assim que funciona o reflorestamento feito por empresas que usam madeira nos seus produtos, assim se dá a sustentabilidade, quando a fabricação de um determinado produto pode repor ou retirar o mínimo possível o que a natureza oferece. Mas por que fazer isso? A explicação mais rápida é: Sobrevivência. O ecossistema todo trabalha em uma corrente, dependemos de vários elementos desse ecossistema sendo um deles o oxigênio que depende de outras criaturas e reações para existir.
Diante dessa linha de pensamento, líderes mundiais se reuniram e aprovaram leis que estimulam industrias a se preocuparem mais com a sustentabilidade. Tendo este como o tema do meu TCC, resolvi começar a escrever aqui sobre exatamente o meu maior interesse nessa área: A construção sustentável. No próximo post vou falar mais sobre os materiais que hoje já podem substituir alguns antigos e que além de serem mais baratos, prejudicam menos o meio ambiente.